Tuesday, August 05, 2008

Blame, it's what Victims Do

Blame, point your finger at the world and exclaim it's all Thier Fault.

That's what victims do... the opposite of take responsibility.

Broken, missing, dysfunctional boundaries are what makes a codepedent a codepedent.


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Monday, August 04, 2008

I do NOT have cancer!

My Dad died of prostate cancer in 2005

I had symptoms of cancer, and digestive problems.

I just went to the local Frederick Maryland traveling health care clinic:
Mission of Mercy and I do NOT HAVE Cancer!

I don't know how a person can live 50 years and all of a sudden I can't digest milk?

I thought I was a gonner, leakin from both ends, I really thought I wasn't going to
live to see my Grandaughter grow up...

I'm lactose intollerant?
really?

I've got a minor prostate infection?

I'll take that over cancer any time...

Every day since then has been a good day.

I'm gonna croak, but not this year!
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Respect or the lack of it

Respect, more importantly for a codependent, the lack of internal self respect.

This is the central issue for all addictive behaviors (and codependency is an addictive behavior).

Internal Self Respect is missing from an addict, it's insidious in that an addict is not really aware of what's missing.

How would you know if you were missing something if you never experienced it?

A codependent could accidentally do functional behavior and never know it?

You might have hit it by mistake and couldn't recognize it.

This lack of self respect is going to be the dominant theme of all my recovery blogs for the next few months.

How does a less than functional person work towards being functional?

baby steps- if all you do is one thing that works towards self respect every day... it compounds like bank interest, after 30 days you do not have 1 item 30 times... what you have is a critical mass reached wherein you couldn't go back to that old addictive behavior pattern if you wanted to.

Last year I posted this article to Repair Manual 4 Self Destructive Behavior:

http://repairmanual4selfdestructivebehavior.blogspot.com/2008/06/being-punitive-is-counter-productive.html

As addicts ( http://crackaddictionrecovery.blogspot.com ) we're already beating ourselves up... we're world class self depracators.

For example, when I was still using, I'd spent most of my cash... http://cocaineregrets.com, but I saved just enough to buy socks. the next week when I'd gotten paid, I repeated the above, but I bought myself underware...

each little symbolic stand you take toward treating yourself with respect will accumulate, there will be a critical mass reached...

more coming, I've got to answer this phone call


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