How To Spot A Codependent

OR how to discover that you're codependent, a checklist

A) codependents want chronic maladies, they want to have to "treat" a condition, they won't think in terms of curing a problem.. they may not be consciously aware of this but IF a medical "condition" went away.. they'd be lonely.. they're unaware that, on a sub conscious level that they

Actually LIKE having a medical condition.. because they view that "condition" as making them eligible for sympathy

A healthy person considers wanting sympathy as a weakness.. something to avoid, revulsion

Sympathy gives a codependent an orgasm.. gives them a hard on.. if the codependent is also a sexual deviant ( S and M ) it LITERALLY gives them a hard on

B) more to come, will add to this when I get off work, it's time to make the donuts to keep the lights on


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Why Codependents Refuse To Change

Most of the folks I've counseled wanted someone to help them "commiserate"
aka "make me feel better" about being effed up

Almost ZERO have actually made the decision to do what ever it takes to heal

Even health "professionals" want to think in terms of "treatment"

none of them really think in terms of CURE THIS MO-FO once and for all

One counselee I have is quick to resent when others "do something" real or imagined "to them"

Rather than "get pissed" over this,

how about getting pissed over paying someone else's bill?
and all of the payments you make ONLY go towards interest, the principal NEVER decreases

All of your codependency comes from your parents asking YOU to carry THEIR SHAME

the bill isn't even yours to pay.. yet your entire life you're attempting to do debt service on someone else's shame

and all of your "payments" are interest only

You're never, EVER going to pay that bill

it isn't even YOUR BILL TO PAY

you do NOT owe that


========== This article is for informational purposes only. Please contact a licensed professional in your area if you are in crisis or require mental health services