Manipulation Causes Victim Based Thinking

Why would anyone choose to be a Victim?

what is attractive about being a victim?

That's easy.. it's unconscious, you don't "set out" to be a victim.. but unconsciously you LOVE IT.

Codependents like being victims... not from any conscious deliberate choice but due to parenting abuse.. they've come to view sympathy as a narcotic.

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Passive-Aggressive Predators - Snide Comments

If you USE passive aggressive behavior, you're probably ( conveniently ) unaware of it 

If you NOTICE passive aggressive behavior used ON YOU.. you're likely to get pissed off.

Often, because codependents are unaware of what functional emotional boundaries are.. this can be the first indication to a codependent or the inkling that something is wrong and ought to be corrected.

according to Psychology Today:

Passive-aggressive actions can range from the relatively mild, such as making excuses for not following through, to the very serious, such as sabotaging someone’s well-being and success - https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/communication-success/201508/10-signs-passive-aggressive-relationship

For Example.. there's no way to respond to a question like this, without you looking like an asshole:

"So when did you stop beating your wife?"

There's a reason some people use this tactic.. they're playing a game of "one up-man-ship"

they "appear" to be "friendly" but they're really, subtly maneuvering to place themselves in a "one up" situation in the "pecking order"

I use the term "pecking order" because of Family Systems Theory

this is the first of a series of posts on Passive-Aggressive behavior... stay tuned


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Quitting Smoking Is a Bitch

I've been a cigarette smoker since 1973, that's 44 years

it's a bitch

withdrawal, anxiety, and mostly... addiction substitution

I guess this makes my 24th attempt to be smoke free

In the previous 23 attempts over the past 30 odd years, when I quit one thing, I'd do more of some other related self destructive behavior

This attempt is made during my 60th year above ground on this planet

nicotine patches help the most.. walking 6000 steps a day helps a LOT as well

use of an ecig seems to be the best thing to do when the patches just don't seem to be enough

I keep telling myself: ad addict does not know how or is not comfortable "treating themselves with respect"



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