Friday, February 15, 2008

Jobs that will hire a broken employee & blame

A codependent will... there's a long list of characteristics.

I think the list is on an earlier post from this blog.

with respect to this post and the little speed bump in my current employment/ health situation, lets just say a codependent will blame most anything on someone or something else.

codependents live not at the cause of stuff, they live at the effect of stuff.

Cause and Effect and your fishbowl.

We all live in a paradigm, you cannot escape it, to a codependent this seems unfair.
codependents have 'control issues', problems with authority are ultimatley control issues.

A paradigm is a set of stipulations, unspoken, part of our autonomic response to outside stimuli, for example, it's a given that gravity exists...
we don't usually give much thought to obeying gravity unless we get too close to the railing of a balcony on the 16th floor.

Codpendents often have trouble with the 3rd step and with the concept of obeying God.
Yet they Obey gravity every second of every day and that doesn't seem to piss them off.

A paradigm is like a world view, what Tony Robbins calls a "Global World View"
Tony paraphrases this as:

"Life is..."
"People are..."
"Screw them before they screw you (cause they will)"
"Give em an inch and they'll take a mile"
"murphy's law"

A codependent's world view is that the universe causes stuff to happen to them,
they're at the effect of stuff outside their control.

To be healthy is to be at the cause of stuff in your life, not to be at the effect.

More later on how to learn how to be at the cause and stop being at the effect.

I'm grateful that there are jobs available that are sub standard.

Jobs that are 'broken' A.K.A. codpendent will often, of necessity, hire someone
with bad stuff in their work history, tickets on thier driving record and such.

It's good to have options when some of the better jobs will not hire someone
on the road back from bad stuff happening to them and less than functional responses to said bad stuff.

I could rail at the injustice of my recent employment.

Or I could just be thankful to learn from the experience and move on.

methinks I'll do the later, at least I didn't run the truck off the road or into a car filled with a family, you get the point.


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