Some thoughts on the 12 steps

For those who have never been around the 12 Step philosophy, here is a
quick overview according to Ron (I knew a little but not much when I
started my journey)...This is NOT offered as a prefect piece of writing,
but rather some thoughts on the 12 Steps, and what I learned as I
studied and tried to apply them.

The 12 Steps grew out of the experiences of Dr. Bob and Bill W., the two
original co-founders of Alcoholics Anonymous (AA). The steps are loosely
based on another Christian program called The Oxford Group (The 12 Steps
are NOT Christian, but the strong influences are there as is the assumption
that one will come to believe in a Judo-Christian type “God”, although
Higher Power is also used. The idea or confession and cleansing is common
in many belief systems, and is the basic philosophy behind the 12 Steps.
That is to say if we rid ourselves of resentments toward others, fears,
and come to trust that we can live without our “Drug of Choice”,
we can become free from the compulsion to do whatever our compulsion is.

Here is a short review of how the process is laid out in the unchanged
original 164 pages of the book Alcoholics Anonymous or the “Big Book”.
I find it interesting that many, many other works, to include the "Universal
12 Step Program" by Dr.s Peiser and Sandry, use the same ideas of internal
cleansing, even when the idea of God is replaced by "Rational Thinking" or
"Reality". The basis of "How to Manage your DICK (Destructive Impulses with
Cyber Kinetics)" by Dr. Sean O'Reilly is to find a set of beliefs to confront
your "Lizard" brain with. Again, replacing my "Will" with a belief in something
outside myself. I often use "Good Orderly Direction" (Picked up from a Jew
addressing the troubles people from non-traditional spiritual beliefs have with
working the 12 Steps) or “Group of Deviants”.

As I read the preamble to the 12 Steps, there are three pertinent ideas in the
"Program of Recovery":

a. A need to "completely give themselves to this simple program” or “become
willing to go to any lengths."
b. Get honest (with ourselves and others, but not necessarily those who you
could hurt with your honesty).
c. Let go of our old ideas.

They are then followed with the "suggested program" of basically finding
something outside myself to trust, cleaning my house or "soul" of any harms
I have done and forgiving those who I believe have harmed me. And that by
doing this, the "need" for my DOC will be cleansed from me. And then I
maintain my newly cleaned "soul" by practicing daily the act of watching to
give no offense and living free of resentments by forgiving others. I also
need to let go of any and all fears, believing that my "God" or HP will
provide for me. I think it is this last part, the letting go of fear, and
trusting "God" to meet our needs that causes so much trouble for so many of
us. Once again I refer to the "Big Book",

"Many of us exclaimed, "What an order! I can't go through with it."
Do not be discouraged. No one among us has been able to maintain anything
like perfect adherence to these principals. We are not saints. The point is,
we are willing to grow along spiritual lines. The principals we have set
down here are guides to spiritual progress. We claim spiritual progress, not
perfection."

Because if it had come from me, I would not be in a place where I believed my
life was out of control.

Letting go of my old ideas - I can control my compulsive behaviors doing
what I have done in the past. Duh, it didn't work before, maybe I need to try
something different.

1. We admitted that we were powerless over (sex, love, lust) -- that our lives
had become unmanageable.

Step one to me is a given, else I would not have sought help.

2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
My "will" says act out, even though another part of me knows that it will
hurt, albeit it a different kind of hurt then the one I was trying to kill
my DOC. So I am asked to turn over that part of me, my will and thus my life,
to "God". But what or who is "God"? Some claim to know the answer.... the
AA Big Book says you must find your own. But if you don't fined one bigger
then your disease, you won't have anything to turn to that you can trust when
the desire to act out is overpowering. Most find that the “God” they came into
the program with has to be replaced with a new “God”, simply because that “God”
wasn't able to help stop the acting out. Once you have that “God” or "Good
Orderly Direction" in your life, then you can move forward.

3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we
understood Him.

4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

How to do this has many different models. Many use Dr. Pat Carnes “Gentle Path
Through the 12 Steps”. Some use the “Joe and Charley Step Study” Many simply use
the AA Big Book” it's self. The AA Big Book process can be a little confusing
(though the intent was to have a simple example the common business person would
understand) but the idea is to list who or what bothers you (resentments and
fears), the exact idea you have about the cause, and what part of me is bothered
or pained; our self-esteem, our pocketbooks, our ambitions or our relationships.
Then we finely list what are our defects of “character”, selfishness, dishonesty,
and inconsideration.

5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of
our wrongs.

As the AA fellowship grew, the “another human being” came to be understood as
one's “Sponsor” (in the early days of AA, you had to be “Sponsored” into one of
the “Anonymous” meetings). When the Big Book was written, there where less then
100 members, scattered around the country.

6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.

Here again, this “God” has to be one you want to trust.

7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.

Those we identified in our inventory.

8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends
to them all.

Often the same people listed on the inventory.

9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so
would injure them or others.

This too is where the help of a Sponsor is considered indispensable, so it does
not become a “Guilt Dump” or give more hurt then help.

10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly
admitted it.

Keeping our house clean by daily looking at where we have been resentful
selfish, dishonest or afraid? “Have we kept something to ourselves which should
be discussed with another person at once?”

11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with
God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the
power to carry that out.

12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried to
carry this message to others, and to practice these principles in all our
affairs. We stay sober by helping others, thus remembering when our lives were
unmanageable.

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Hubris Part Duex

Hubris

On one of my other blogs, I put up the Wikopedia definition:
exaggerated pride or self-confidence, often resulting in fatal retribution.

The Nazi's had Hubris:
They thought the Brits were going to join them... You know the British Empire?

Henry Ford had Hubris: He bought a huge plantation in South America to plant rubber trees... Ford had his managers plant rubber trees just like they ran the mass production car factory- only problem was that rubber trees, in thier natural habitat, are highly susceptible to blight- ergo you only find rubber trees surviving not in clusters, but far apart from each other.

Your Ego thinks it IS you...& your Ego is Hubris Central

And, the smarter you are, the more difficult detachment and surrender is.

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Detachment

Hubris

Self-Confidence

Ego

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Self Sabotage for codependents

Self Sabotage for codependents...

The clinical term for this is:
bland
boring
stark

by that I mean the clinical description, while definitive... doesn't give the person suffering from this behavior much inclination as to what the "F" to do about it.

... drum roll
the term is:
Pyschological Reversal


more later

Psychological Reversal

Self Sabotage

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If a tree falls in a forest & no one is around...

Got this gem while googling, it's from a neat blog titled:

"My Secret Underground Society"

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If A Tree Falls In A Forest, And No One Is Around To Hear It...

Does it make a sound? I came across this long-debated question again while I reading a website. Then I googled it to see how people answered it.

I always thought this was more of a scientific question than philosophical, but from the answers I read, it's a question of "What is Reality?" Here's how I answer it (as brief as possible): No, it doesn't make a sound. It produces sound waves, but unless you have the ability to translate the waves into sensory information in the brain, then there is no sound. If a deaf person is in the woods and a tree falls beside him, it doesn't make a "sound."

I found a lot of interesting answers on the web. These are some excerpts. Some are very long and detailed answers.
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The comment I added to this post:

I agree with KarmaKity, I'm told that dogs cannot see colors. The sky doesn't really HAVE a color, not inherently anyway...

We only percieve light refracting off of the prism effect created by our atmosphere.

SOooo, we see that frequency as blue, but, and this is a big but: the sky isn't *really* blue (not to itself or any non human)

What does light/ color have to do with the damn tree sound?

Perception

So if a tree falls in the forest and no one is there to hear it, the damn tree hitting the ground displaces air molecules... if you want to call them sounds... that's up to you

The trackback url for my comment in reply to that post is:

http://tsscusb.blog-city.com/read/trackback/311697015.htm

Oh, and I'm adding this disclaimer to all my posts from now on:

This article is for informational purposes only.
Please contact a licensed professional in your area
if you are in crisis or require mental health services

I'm not an L.C.S.W, but I did stay at a Holiday Express last night:)

A comparison of victim and martyr characteristics

Victim:
1. Usually has short-term problem
------Martyr:
Long-term problem

Victim:
2. Motivated to change
------Martyr:
Stuck in their problem

Victim:
3. Rights violated by others
------Martyr:
Rights violated by others

Victim:
4. Did not choose the problem
------Martyr:
Chooses to remain in problem situation

Victim:
5. Never complains
------Martyr:
Complains all the time

Victim:
6. Lacks insight into problem
------Martyr::
Frequently has insight into the problem

Victim:
7. Unknowingly plays an active part in the problem
------Martyr:
Frequently knowingly plays an active part in the problem

Victim:
8. Doesn't often seek help
------Martyr:
Seeks help all the time

Victim:
9. Wants to ``let go'' of problem
------Martyr:
``Holds on to'' the problem

Victim:
10. Guilt free
------Martyr:
Guilt driven

Victim:
11. Solution oriented
------Martyr:
Problem oriented

Victim:
12. Powerless due to lack of knowledge
------Martyr:
Powerless out of a free will choice to be so

this list was from http://www.coping.org/relations/martyr.htm#difference

Rational Mind limitations

From the study of N.L.P. (Neuro Lingustic Programing), which is the study of subjective experience, we know that all you can hold in your head is 7 +/- bits of information.

Nine *chunks* simultaneously that is.

John Bradshaw says that what he calls our Ego consciousness is what is being defined there.

He goes on to discuss the possibility that we are much more than an Ego.

Consciousness is much more than what Ego can handle.

Consciousness is great, it's good to have... but there is much more
there are more than just the 5 senses.

The problem with Ego consciousness is if I 'chunk' on you I'm not conscious of me.

Ego is about predictability.
With out Ego, we'd be like "Rain Man", the character Dustin Hoffman played.

We're used to the predictable rythms of the universe.
This "Ego Structure" is our predictability structure.

What if the sun didn't come up for 2 weeks...
we'd start getting scared... "this is wierd, you know the sun hasn't come up... call channel 7..."

Codependents get stuck in ego predictability:
"She's been bitching and nagging at him to come home early.
She's been doing it for 16 years...
and hasn't caught on YET that it doesn't work"
more later

Help others, karma will help YOU

I just received from source energy (my term for God), this email:
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You've also earned Expert Author status:
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I've been working on letting my larger self receive abundancefrom the universe... Results so far:

#1 out of almost 3 million sites on Google:
http://www.google.com/search?sourceid=navclient&ie=UTF-8&rls=GGLD,GGLD:2004-32,GGLD:en&q=Fasting+for+Your+Mind

#1 out of 20 million other sites on Google:
http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&q=victim+behavior&btnG=Google+Search

And on the topic of NLP, the definition of which is the
"Structure of Subjective Experience:

# 6 out of 12 million other sites on Google:
http://www.google.com/search?Hal=en&lr=&rls=GGLD%2CGGLD%3A2004-32%2CGGLD%3Aen&q=structure+of+subjective+experience&btnG=Search

And this is just the beginning!

I firmly believe that the best way for me to help myself and my family is to help as many other people as possible... and I
cant think of a better way to do that then to use the Internet

Damn, even my home business: www.cleanerscomes2you.com just got a huge linen cleaning order from one of the biggest churches in Baltimore, Mt. Pleasant Baptist Church

Who said God doesn't perform miracles?

Can This Black Box See Into the Future?

Can This Black Box See Into the Future?

Deep in the basement of a dusty university library in
Edinburgh lies a small black box, roughly the size of two
cigarette packets side by side, that churns out random
numbers in an endless stream.

At first glance it is an unremarkable piece of equipment.
Encased in metal, it contains at its heart a microchip no
more complex than the ones found in modern pocket
calculators.

But, according to a growing band of top scientists, this
box has quite extraordinary powers. It is, they claim, the
‘eye’ of a machine that appears capable of peering into the
future and predicting major world events. The machine
apparently sensed the September 11 attacks on the World
Trade Centre four hours before they happened - but in the
fevered mood of conspiracy theories of the time, the claims
were swiftly knocked back by skeptics. But last December,
it also appeared to forewarn of the Asian tsunami just
before the deep sea earthquake that precipitated the epic
tragedy.

Now, even the doubters are acknowledging that here is a
small box with apparently inexplicable powers.

‘It’s Earth-shattering stuff,’ says Dr Roger Nelson,
emeritus researcher at Princeton University in the United
States, who is heading the research project behind the
‘black box’ phenomenon.

‘We’re very early on in the process of trying to figure out
what’s going on here. At the moment we’re stabbing in the
dark.’ Dr Nelson’s investigations, called the Global
Consciousness Project, were originally hosted by Princeton
University and are centered on one of the most
extraordinary experiments of all time. Its aim is to detect
whether all of humanity shares a single subconscious mind
that we can all tap into without realizing.

And machines like the Edinburgh black box have thrown up a
tantalizing possibility: that scientists may have
unwittingly discovered a way of predicting the future.

Although many would consider the project’s aims to be
little more than fools’ gold, it has still attracted a
roster of 75 respected scientists from 41 different
nations. Researchers from Princeton - where Einstein spent
much of his career - work alongside scientists from
universities in Britain, the Netherlands, Switzerland and
Germany. The project is also the most rigorous and
longest-running investigation ever into the potential
powers of the paranormal.

‘Very often paranormal phenomena evaporate if you study
them for long enough,’ says physicist Dick Bierman of the
University of Amsterdam. ‘But this is not happening with
the Global Consciousness Project. The effect is real. The
only dispute is about what it means.’ The project has its
roots in the extraordinary work of Professor Robert Jahn of
Princeton University during the late 1970s. He was one of
the first modern scientists to take paranormal phenomena
seriously. Intrigued by such things as telepathy,
telekinesis - the supposed psychic power to move objects
without the use of physical force - and extrasensory
perception, he was determined to study the phenomena using
the most up-to-date technology available.

One of these new technologies was a humble-looking black
box known was a Random Event Generator (REG). This used
computer technology to generate two numbers - a one and a
zero - in a totally random sequence, rather like an
electronic coin-flipper.

The pattern of ones and noughts - ‘heads’ and ‘tails’ as it
were - could then be printed out as a graph. The laws of
chance dictate that the generators should churn out equal
numbers of ones and zeros - which would be represented by a
nearly flat line on the graph. Any deviation from this
equal number shows up as a gently rising curve.

During the late 1970s, Prof Jahn decided to investigate
whether the power of human thought alone could interfere in
some way with the machine’s usual readings. He hauled
strangers off the street and asked them to concentrate
their minds on his number generator. In effect, he was
asking them to try to make it flip more heads than tails.

It was a preposterous idea at the time. The results,
however, were stunning and have never been satisfactorily
explained.

Again and again, entirely ordinary people proved that their
minds could influence the machine and produce significant
fluctuations on the graph, ‘forcing it’ to produce unequal
numbers of ‘heads’ or ‘tails’.

According to all of the known laws of science, this should
not have happened - but it did. And it kept on happening.

Dr Nelson, also working at Princeton University, then
extended Prof Jahn’s work by taking random number machines
to group meditations, which were very popular in America at
the time. Again, the results were eyepopping. The groups
were collectively able to cause dramatic shifts in the
patterns of numbers.

From then on, Dr Nelson was hooked.

Using the internet, he connected up 40 random event
generators from all over the world to his laboratory
computer in Princeton. These ran constantly, day in day
out, generating millions of different pieces of data. Most
of the time, the resulting graph on his computer looked
more or less like a flat line.

But then on September 6, 1997, something quite
extraordinary happened: the graph shot upwards, recording a
sudden and massive shift in the number sequence as his
machines around the world started reporting huge deviations
from the norm. The day was of historic importance for
another reason, too.

For it was the same day that an estimated one billion
people around the world watched the funeral of Diana,
Princess of Wales at Westminster Abbey.

Dr Nelson was convinced that the two events must be related
in some way.

Could he have detected a totally new phenomena? Could the
concentrated emotional outpouring of millions of people be
able to influence the output of his REGs. If so, how? Dr
Nelson was at a loss to explain it.

So, in 1998, he gathered together scientists from all over
the world to analyze his findings. They, too, were stumped
and resolved to extend and deepen the work of Prof Jahn and
Dr Nelson. The Global Consciousness Project was born.

Since then, the project has expanded massively. A total of
65 Eggs (as the generators have been named) in 41 countries
have now been recruited to act as the ‘eyes’ of the
project.

And the results have been startling and inexplicable in
equal measure.

For during the course of the experiment, the Eggs have
’sensed’ a whole series of major world events as they were
happening, from the Nato bombing of Yugoslavia to the Kursk
submarine tragedy to America’s hung election of 2000.

The Eggs also regularly detect huge global celebrations,
such as New Year’s Eve.

But the project threw up its greatest enigma on September
11, 2001.

As the world stood still and watched the horror of the
terrorist attacks unfold across New York, something strange
was happening to the Eggs.

Not only had they registered the attacks as they actually
happened, but the characteristic shift in the pattern of
numbers had begun four hours before the two planes even hit
the Twin Towers.

They had, it appeared, detected that an event of historic
importance was about to take place before the terrorists
had even boarded their fateful flights. The implications,
not least for the West’s security services who constantly
monitor electronic ‘chatter’, are clearly enormous.

‘I knew then that we had a great deal of work ahead of us,’
says Dr Nelson.

What could be happening? Was it a freak occurrence,
perhaps?

Apparently not. For in the closing weeks of December last
year, the machines went wild once more.

Twenty-four hours later, an earthquake deep beneath the
Indian Ocean triggered the tsunami which devastated
South-East Asia, and claimed the lives of an estimated
quarter of a million people.

So could the Global Consciousness Project really be
forecasting the future?

Cynics will quite rightly point out that there is always
some global event that could be used to ‘explain’ the times
when the Egg machines behaved erratically. After all, our
world is full of wars, disasters and terrorist outrages, as
well as the occasional global celebration. Are the
scientists simply trying too hard to detect patterns in
their raw data?

The team behind the project insist not. They claim that by
using rigorous scientific techniques and powerful
mathematics it is possible to exclude any such random
connections. ‘We’re perfectly willing to discover that
we’ve made mistakes,’ says Dr Nelson. ‘But we haven’t been
able to find any, and neither has anyone else.

Our data shows clearly that the chances of getting these
results by fluke are one million to one against.

That’s hugely significant.’ But many remain skeptical.

Professor Chris French, a psychologist and noted skeptic at
Goldsmiths College in London, says: ‘The Global
Consciousness Project has generated some very intriguing
results that cannot be readily dismissed. I’m involved in
similar work to see if we get the same results. We haven’t
managed to do so yet but it’s only an early experiment. The
jury’s still out.’ Strange as it may seem, though, there’s
nothing in the laws of physics that precludes the
possibility of foreseeing the future.

It is possible - in theory - that time may not just move
forwards but backwards, too. And if time ebbs and flows
like the tides in the sea, it might just be possible to
foretell major world events. We would, in effect, be
‘remembering’ things that had taken place in our future.

‘There’s plenty of evidence that time may run backwards,’
says Prof Bierman at the University of Amsterdam.

‘And if it’s possible for it to happen in physics, then it
can happen in our minds, too.’ In other words, Prof Bierman
believes that we are all capable of looking into the
future, if only we could tap into the hidden power of our
minds. And there is a tantalizing body of evidence to
support this theory.

Dr John Hartwell, working at the University of Utrecht in
the Netherlands, was the first to uncover evidence that
people could sense the future. In the mid-1970s he hooked
people up to hospital scanning machines so that he could
study their brainwave patterns.

He began by showing them a sequence of provocative cartoon
drawings. When the pictures were shown, the machines
registered the subject’s brainwaves as they reacted
strongly to the images before them. This was to be
expected.

Far less easy to explain was the fact that in many cases,
these dramatic patterns began to register a few seconds
before each of the pictures were even flashed up.

It was as though Dr Hartwell’s case studies were somehow
seeing into the future, and detecting when the next
shocking image would be shown next.

It was extraordinary - and seemingly inexplicable.

But it was to be another 15 years before anyone else took
Dr Hartwell’s work further when Dean Radin, a researcher
working in America, connected people up to a machine that
measured their skin’s resistance to electricity. This is
known to fluctuate in tandem with our moods - indeed, it’s
this principle that underlies many lie detectors.

Radin repeated Dr Hartwell’s ‘image response’ experiments
while measuring skin resistance. Again, people began
reacting a few seconds before they were shown the
provocative pictures. This was clearly impossible, or so he
thought, so he kept on repeating the experiments. And he
kept getting the same results.

‘I didn’t believe it either,’ says Prof Bierman. ‘So I also
repeated the experiment myself and got the same results. I
was shocked. After this I started to think more deeply
about the nature of time.’ To make matters even more
intriguing, Prof Bierman says that other mainstream labs
have now produced similar results but are yet to go public.

‘They don’t want to be ridiculed so they won’t release
their findings,’ he says. ‘So I’m trying to persuade all of
them to release their results at the same time. That would
at least spread the ridicule a little more thinly!’ If Prof
Bierman is right, though, then the experiments are no
laughing matter.

They might help provide a solid scientific grounding for
such strange phenomena as ‘deja vu’, intuition and a host
of other curiosities that we have all experienced from time
to time.

They may also open up a far more interesting possibility -
that one day we might be able to enhance psychic powers
using machines that can ‘tune in’ to our subconscious mind,machines like the little black box in Edinburgh.

Just as we have built mechanical engines to replace muscle
power, could we one day build a device to enhance and
interpret our hidden psychic abilities?

Dr Nelson is optimistic - but not for the short term. ‘We
may be able to predict that a major world event is going to
happen. But we won’t know exactly what will happen or where
it’s going to happen,’ he says.

‘Put it this way - we haven’t yet got a machine we could
sell to the CIA.’

But for Dr Nelson, talk of such psychic machines - with the
potential to detect global catastrophes or terrorist
outrages - is of far less importance than the implications
of his work in terms of the human race.

For what his experiments appear to demonstrate is that
while we may all operate as individuals, we also appear to
share something far, far greater - a global consciousness.
Some might call it the mind of God.

‘We’re taught to be individualistic monsters,’ he says.
‘We’re driven by society to separate ourselves from each
other. That’s not right. We may be connected together far
more intimately than we realize.

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Ok, so what do I do about it?

Steve's View: Why boycott Exxon? Note to the oil industry: we might trust you if you stopped lying!

Steve's View: Why boycott Exxon? Note to the oil industry: we might trust you if you stopped lying!

Fasting for our minds

Everyone has heard of fasting. The practice of taking a hiatus from food. Doing so has lots of beneficial effects on our bodies.
Mostly ridding our body of toxins.

What about ridding our minds of toxins?

Sound like a good idea?

Here, do this:
( I'm going to go into more detail on my other blog: http://software4yourmind.com )

Don't think a negative thought for seven straight days.

Can't do it?
Of course you can't... What this means is if a negative thought comes into your mind, let it go

Don't let a single negative thought stay in your mind for more than a moment or two.

Often when I hear people speak about meditating, they complain
that they can not concentrate.

Ok fair enough, do the following, this is like a visualization:

Picture a train, lets say it has almost a hundred cars...
You are on one side of the train tracks.
What you're focusing on, what you're meditating on is on the other side of the tracks...

A distracting thougt pops into your mind
instead of bitching and moaning that you've lost your place...

See the distraction as a passing railroad car.

Remember when you get stuck at a RR crossing, waiting for the long train to finish up?

you can still see the street, the cars on the other side of the train.

Get the picture?

So do it, do it right now
Seven consecutive days with no negative thoughts!

Ok,Ok everybodies mind wanders; here is an additional tactic you can use:

Picture your postal mail box.
Negative thought comes in.
don't open it.

If you want, write on it: "return to sender"

Put that damn thing back in the mail box and flip up the flag so the mail man/ mail person can send it back where it came from...

doesn't live here:)


David Bruce
Tony Robbins-Total Immersion Tactic:
Edison found 9,999 ways to not make a light bulb,
See what it got him?
(NLP pun)
http://software4yourmind.com

Structure of Subjective Expirience

Taking the topic to another level on www.software4yourmind.com

There I will talk about how your ego is AM and your intuitive self is FM... both play the same tune, one is richer and fuller than the other.

go to www.software4yourmind.com

Willpower alternator software

the first thing I'm going to write about is willpower.
I recently had the experience of having to replace my car's alternator.

I had to wait a month to save up the money to fix it.
during that month, I bought a battery charger, I pulled my battery out and recharged it every night...

My recovery is very much like this experience:

Moving to Frederick away from Baltimore(and away from the sources of my temptations) were like recharging my abstinence battery.

Better than being broke down, but not repaired:
I constructed in my mind, an alternator software, a will power alternator-

more coming soon

Tony Robbins and Baltimore's 98Rock

Western society’s condescension of our Non Physical Self.

I was listening to my favorite radio station on my way to work the other day and the DJ’s were talking about infomercials.

One of them mentioned Tony Robbins, he sarcastically described Tony’s work as “…just have a positive attitude”

Why is it that society considers attitude as being a minor thing?

It occurred to me that attitude is perhaps the best example of proof that we have a non physical self.

David Bruce Jr.
www.software4yourmind.com
(still under reconstruction)

Atheists and Agnostics seem to get their panties in an uproar over the first step

Atheists and Agnostics seem to get their panties in an uproar over the first step:

You are powerless over your addiction

Well how this concept is processed is relative.
What the hell does that mean?
energy equals mass times the speed of light squared...?
Einstein said "time is an optical delusion"

IF
If you’re operating SOLELY by your ego, if your ego is the only part of you in charge…
Then the statement is factual, you are in fact powerless.

Our ego is, well let’s say it’s our left brain.
Our intuitive self is, for the sake of argument and expediency our right brain

Left is in charge of Doing (and this is the ONLY thing it knows)
Right is in charge of Being

From doing’s perspective being is a non-statement
Our ego is genetically incapable of being...
(OK it only recognizes being as a mental concept, the map is
NOT the terrain)

Now even though every spiritual tradition known to man speaks of the denigration of the ego… you’d go crazy without a healthy ego.

We’d be like Rain Man (…course I’m an excellent driver… Kmart sucks)

Ego is about predictability.
It can only function with a perceived starting point and a perceived ending point
Without a balance between our ego and intuitive self, we have disharmony.

Time is gods dirty trick.
Time likes to fool us into thinking that it is real.

the only time is real is NOW.
past and future are optical delusions.
when you were in your past- it was NOW
when you get to your future= it will be NOW

don't believe me?
do something yesterday... right now
try it the other way...
do something tomarrow...right now

Our Rational mind and Intuitive mind have to work
together like your cars clutch pedal and gas pedal

If you let out the clutch with out pressing on the
gas pedal at the same time...you'll stall

you wont go any where

The Subject Object Relation...

more coming, very soon..I promise
it's 3:51 am and I've got to go to sleep

Everything is as it should be now

I lost my domain names: victimbehavior.com and emotionalboundaries.com

Dad died of cancer in July, I went on a binge for several months...
Everything is as it should be now
- My ex wife is 400 miles away
- I live with my 2 youngest children
- we live in a 300k townhouse with hardwood floors and 4 bathrooms
- I'm having a real parenting relationship w/ my youngest daughter and
I'm lucky she even talks too me based on my screwing up from P.T.S.D. from
incest when I was between the ages of 5 and 10

more later