This is not a republican post, but it's time to move to the right!!
The left brain has reined supreme since Newton and DeCarte...
Logical, Analytica, Pragmatic, Linear thinking has smothered our entire paradigm into sterility.
"Use the Force Luke!"
literally
What's wrong with the entire Western mode of thought is linear to the devastating consequence of the symbolic.
We need to get a bigger, more flexible fish bowl!
What the heck do I mean by fishbowl???
Our paradigm, Tony Robbins calls is a "Global World View".
E.S.T. calls it our context.
There isn't anything wrong with our content, but the context we view our representation of reality is severely limited.
more later, complete with foot notes and the history of philosophy thanks to the Frederick County public library.
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Saturday, March 15, 2008
Monday, March 10, 2008
I'm a Grandfather!!!!
8 lbs, 2 ounces, 20 1/2 inches... Taylor Lynee Bruce
I've got a grandaughter!
I already have 2 step grandaughters in Ohio, but Taylor is the first one with my genenetic material.
I also got myself in trouble playing taxi... with someone who was up to illict stuff, but that's a different post.
God is sure taking care of me, new job too much to list
will post soon
David
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I've got a grandaughter!
I already have 2 step grandaughters in Ohio, but Taylor is the first one with my genenetic material.
I also got myself in trouble playing taxi... with someone who was up to illict stuff, but that's a different post.
God is sure taking care of me, new job too much to list
will post soon
David
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Wednesday, February 27, 2008
We're all kinda schizophrenic
ALL of us are kinda schizophrenic... really.
In a very real sense, we all have multiple personalities, even healthy people (by healthy I mean functional or relatively functional people, NO one is functional all of the time, Our TARGET STATE is Inter-dependence, not Codependency)
We have a left brain and a right brain, we have a pair of eyes and a pair of ears, presumably for depth perception (a that word, perception, a LOT more on that concept later)
our Mind (I make a distinction between brain and Mind) also records in stereo:
One set of records/ memories is "What Happened"
the other set of records is "How we Felt about What Happened"
and it's also VERY useful to note that for the vast majority of the time, the playing back (recollection of) those set of recordings is:
A) on autopilot
B) unconscious
By that I mean it usually never occurs to us that we can vary/ control the 'strength' of, the 'volume of' those play backs...
not only that, most of us are completely oblivious of just how much that PLAYBACK colors, influences... actually CONTROLS the choices we make available to us.
Notice I said: WE MAKE AVAILABLE TO US, not shit is happening to us that is outside of our control... NO ONE IS DOING ANYTHING TO US, we connect the internal dots to assign meaning to incoming stimuli.
Damm, now I've got to go to work again, will fill in the blanks later to this thread of consciousness
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In a very real sense, we all have multiple personalities, even healthy people (by healthy I mean functional or relatively functional people, NO one is functional all of the time, Our TARGET STATE is Inter-dependence, not Codependency)
We have a left brain and a right brain, we have a pair of eyes and a pair of ears, presumably for depth perception (a that word, perception, a LOT more on that concept later)
our Mind (I make a distinction between brain and Mind) also records in stereo:
One set of records/ memories is "What Happened"
the other set of records is "How we Felt about What Happened"
and it's also VERY useful to note that for the vast majority of the time, the playing back (recollection of) those set of recordings is:
A) on autopilot
B) unconscious
By that I mean it usually never occurs to us that we can vary/ control the 'strength' of, the 'volume of' those play backs...
not only that, most of us are completely oblivious of just how much that PLAYBACK colors, influences... actually CONTROLS the choices we make available to us.
Notice I said: WE MAKE AVAILABLE TO US, not shit is happening to us that is outside of our control... NO ONE IS DOING ANYTHING TO US, we connect the internal dots to assign meaning to incoming stimuli.
Damm, now I've got to go to work again, will fill in the blanks later to this thread of consciousness
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Friday, February 15, 2008
Adult Children of Alcoholics and Victim Behavior
Adult Children of Alcoholics and Victim Behavior
Thanks go out to Cheryl Major for permission to use this info
The following is a list of common characteristics of Adult Children. These characteristics were developed by Dr Janet G. Woititz. You may not feel that each one applies to you, but I found that most of them fit my personality or lifestyle in some way, especially the first one.
Adult Children
...guess at what normal is
...have difficulty following a project through from beginning to end
...lie when it would be just as easy to tell the truth
...have difficulty having fun
...have difficulty with intimate relationships
...overreact to changes over which they have no control
...constantly seek approval and affirmation
...feel that they are different from other people
...are either super responsible or super irresponsible
...judge themselves without mercy
...take themselves very seriously
...tend to lock themselves into a course of action without giving serious thought to alternative behaviors or possible consequences. This impulsivity leads to confusion, self loathing, and loss of control of their environment. As a result, they spend tremendous amounts of time cleaning up the mess.
Of course this is not the final and inclusive list of characteristics, but it gives you a good idea where some of your so called 'personality flaws' or problems in relationships may be coming from.
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The following is a list of common characteristics of Adult Children. These characteristics were developed by Dr Janet G. Woititz. You may not feel that each one applies to you, but I found that most of them fit my personality or lifestyle in some way, especially the first one.
Adult Children
...guess at what normal is
...have difficulty following a project through from beginning to end
...lie when it would be just as easy to tell the truth
...have difficulty having fun
...have difficulty with intimate relationships
...overreact to changes over which they have no control
...constantly seek approval and affirmation
...feel that they are different from other people
...are either super responsible or super irresponsible
...judge themselves without mercy
...take themselves very seriously
...tend to lock themselves into a course of action without giving serious thought to alternative behaviors or possible consequences. This impulsivity leads to confusion, self loathing, and loss of control of their environment. As a result, they spend tremendous amounts of time cleaning up the mess.
Of course this is not the final and inclusive list of characteristics, but it gives you a good idea where some of your so called 'personality flaws' or problems in relationships may be coming from.
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if you are in crisis or require mental health services
Jobs that will hire a broken employee & blame
A codependent will... there's a long list of characteristics.
I think the list is on an earlier post from this blog.
with respect to this post and the little speed bump in my current employment/ health situation, lets just say a codependent will blame most anything on someone or something else.
codependents live not at the cause of stuff, they live at the effect of stuff.
Cause and Effect and your fishbowl.
We all live in a paradigm, you cannot escape it, to a codependent this seems unfair.
codependents have 'control issues', problems with authority are ultimatley control issues.
A paradigm is a set of stipulations, unspoken, part of our autonomic response to outside stimuli, for example, it's a given that gravity exists...
we don't usually give much thought to obeying gravity unless we get too close to the railing of a balcony on the 16th floor.
Codpendents often have trouble with the 3rd step and with the concept of obeying God.
Yet they Obey gravity every second of every day and that doesn't seem to piss them off.
A paradigm is like a world view, what Tony Robbins calls a "Global World View"
Tony paraphrases this as:
"Life is..."
"People are..."
"Screw them before they screw you (cause they will)"
"Give em an inch and they'll take a mile"
"murphy's law"
A codependent's world view is that the universe causes stuff to happen to them,
they're at the effect of stuff outside their control.
To be healthy is to be at the cause of stuff in your life, not to be at the effect.
More later on how to learn how to be at the cause and stop being at the effect.
I'm grateful that there are jobs available that are sub standard.
Jobs that are 'broken' A.K.A. codpendent will often, of necessity, hire someone
with bad stuff in their work history, tickets on thier driving record and such.
It's good to have options when some of the better jobs will not hire someone
on the road back from bad stuff happening to them and less than functional responses to said bad stuff.
I could rail at the injustice of my recent employment.
Or I could just be thankful to learn from the experience and move on.
methinks I'll do the later, at least I didn't run the truck off the road or into a car filled with a family, you get the point.
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I think the list is on an earlier post from this blog.
with respect to this post and the little speed bump in my current employment/ health situation, lets just say a codependent will blame most anything on someone or something else.
codependents live not at the cause of stuff, they live at the effect of stuff.
Cause and Effect and your fishbowl.
We all live in a paradigm, you cannot escape it, to a codependent this seems unfair.
codependents have 'control issues', problems with authority are ultimatley control issues.
A paradigm is a set of stipulations, unspoken, part of our autonomic response to outside stimuli, for example, it's a given that gravity exists...
we don't usually give much thought to obeying gravity unless we get too close to the railing of a balcony on the 16th floor.
Codpendents often have trouble with the 3rd step and with the concept of obeying God.
Yet they Obey gravity every second of every day and that doesn't seem to piss them off.
A paradigm is like a world view, what Tony Robbins calls a "Global World View"
Tony paraphrases this as:
"Life is..."
"People are..."
"Screw them before they screw you (cause they will)"
"Give em an inch and they'll take a mile"
"murphy's law"
A codependent's world view is that the universe causes stuff to happen to them,
they're at the effect of stuff outside their control.
To be healthy is to be at the cause of stuff in your life, not to be at the effect.
More later on how to learn how to be at the cause and stop being at the effect.
I'm grateful that there are jobs available that are sub standard.
Jobs that are 'broken' A.K.A. codpendent will often, of necessity, hire someone
with bad stuff in their work history, tickets on thier driving record and such.
It's good to have options when some of the better jobs will not hire someone
on the road back from bad stuff happening to them and less than functional responses to said bad stuff.
I could rail at the injustice of my recent employment.
Or I could just be thankful to learn from the experience and move on.
methinks I'll do the later, at least I didn't run the truck off the road or into a car filled with a family, you get the point.
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Irresponsibility, codependency and victim behavior
Victim Behavior is the effect of a root cause.
That root cause is codependency.
Codpendency is sometimes called a disease.
It IS a disease of irresponsibility.
It comes from a sick (dysfunctionally sick) family system.
Family systems have 'trees', family trees, if one member
(branch of the tree) gets out of balance, it drags the
other branches out of balance.
One sibling plays the 'role' of black sheep, another one
will balance the tree (family) by being Over responsible.
Outsiders to the family will observe the Over responsible
family member as:
"Why can't Sally be more like her brother?"
"Why does Billy abuse drugs and Becky get straight A's in
school?
In reality (recent breakthroughs in Physics/ Meta Physics
/ Quantum Physics and ultimatley Philosophy has shed much
light on the definition of just what reality really is, but
that topic is going to require a long post unto itself)
... In reality the over responsible sibling is just as 'sick'
as the black sheep sibling.
John Bradshaw's work and Pia Melody's work form the backbone
of much of the philosophical basis for this blog.
I should probably make this post 'sticky' or place it somewhere
on the template near the top because most of what I have to say
is based on the above presupposition.
To screw up is to be irresponsible.
Our current society's attitude toward both the concept of screwing up
and the path to correct it is counterproductive.
The ONLY way to actually balance the problem and the method of
correcting the problem is counter intuitive. That is to say:
What appears to be what would seem to be to most people a
solution actually causes more of the same.
Blame and blaming is the root of irresponsible codpendent victim behavior.
What came first, the chicken or the egg?
Does it really matter?
To say that our family is the blame, may technically be acurate but counter productive, damm, I've no time to finish this post and every line I write
requires background to illustrate... that's ok, I'll fill in the blanks later.
In short, the USPS issued a contract, the contractor I worked for hired me,
I got sick, a contract is a contract, if I was too sick to complete the run,
the contractor should have scrambled find some one to fill in for me.
I communicated that, I communicated to both the Washington DC H.A.S.P and
Blue Mountain Express that I was sick...
Blue Mountain kept on assigning frieght for me to deliver after my mail runs...
To this I can say: "What part of I'm sick do you not understand?"
I could surmise that Blue Mountain Express just did not really believe that
I was sick...
In any case, at this point blame is counter productive.
If I'd have continued driving a tractor trailer under these conditions I would
have had a serious accident, maybe wrecked the truck, lost US mail all over the
highway, gotten hurt or killed, and gotten someone else hurt or killed.
So... I just got another job
more later
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That root cause is codependency.
Codpendency is sometimes called a disease.
It IS a disease of irresponsibility.
It comes from a sick (dysfunctionally sick) family system.
Family systems have 'trees', family trees, if one member
(branch of the tree) gets out of balance, it drags the
other branches out of balance.
One sibling plays the 'role' of black sheep, another one
will balance the tree (family) by being Over responsible.
Outsiders to the family will observe the Over responsible
family member as:
"Why can't Sally be more like her brother?"
"Why does Billy abuse drugs and Becky get straight A's in
school?
In reality (recent breakthroughs in Physics/ Meta Physics
/ Quantum Physics and ultimatley Philosophy has shed much
light on the definition of just what reality really is, but
that topic is going to require a long post unto itself)
... In reality the over responsible sibling is just as 'sick'
as the black sheep sibling.
John Bradshaw's work and Pia Melody's work form the backbone
of much of the philosophical basis for this blog.
I should probably make this post 'sticky' or place it somewhere
on the template near the top because most of what I have to say
is based on the above presupposition.
To screw up is to be irresponsible.
Our current society's attitude toward both the concept of screwing up
and the path to correct it is counterproductive.
The ONLY way to actually balance the problem and the method of
correcting the problem is counter intuitive. That is to say:
What appears to be what would seem to be to most people a
solution actually causes more of the same.
Blame and blaming is the root of irresponsible codpendent victim behavior.
What came first, the chicken or the egg?
Does it really matter?
To say that our family is the blame, may technically be acurate but counter productive, damm, I've no time to finish this post and every line I write
requires background to illustrate... that's ok, I'll fill in the blanks later.
In short, the USPS issued a contract, the contractor I worked for hired me,
I got sick, a contract is a contract, if I was too sick to complete the run,
the contractor should have scrambled find some one to fill in for me.
I communicated that, I communicated to both the Washington DC H.A.S.P and
Blue Mountain Express that I was sick...
Blue Mountain kept on assigning frieght for me to deliver after my mail runs...
To this I can say: "What part of I'm sick do you not understand?"
I could surmise that Blue Mountain Express just did not really believe that
I was sick...
In any case, at this point blame is counter productive.
If I'd have continued driving a tractor trailer under these conditions I would
have had a serious accident, maybe wrecked the truck, lost US mail all over the
highway, gotten hurt or killed, and gotten someone else hurt or killed.
So... I just got another job
more later
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Wednesday, February 06, 2008
Ok, so I may not sue the USPS
hmm, looks like the USPS can fire me for being sick,
they were within thier rights and sought to get rid of me
before the 90 day probation period...
Either way it wasn't the end of the world for me, I still have
health insurance (and disability insurance), I can still find
out whats wrong/ fix it and get a better job.
I'm not a victim.
I've wasted no time in searching for a $20 hour job and I'll get
one, it's just irritating and uncomfortable, but I have big shoulders,
and my higher power has got my back.
It'll take at least a week to replace my job, I still HAVE a job, but
it's not the $19 hour/ Post Office benefits/ 10 paid holidays I
originally signed on for, the crappy Blue Mountain Express is offering
me a measley $10 to $12 an hour delivering freight/ loaded trailers the
better paid line haul drivers left in the yard, and I have to pay $65 a
week or so for health insurance.
I'll probably go to work for WB transport making $23 an hour, but AFTER
I get checked out health wise, might be Crohn's disease, might be
kidney stones, or some other gastric problem (might be colon cancer/
prostate cancer, my Dad just died from prostate cancer, might be
rectal cancer... What ever God's will is, I'll handle it.
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they were within thier rights and sought to get rid of me
before the 90 day probation period...
Either way it wasn't the end of the world for me, I still have
health insurance (and disability insurance), I can still find
out whats wrong/ fix it and get a better job.
I'm not a victim.
I've wasted no time in searching for a $20 hour job and I'll get
one, it's just irritating and uncomfortable, but I have big shoulders,
and my higher power has got my back.
It'll take at least a week to replace my job, I still HAVE a job, but
it's not the $19 hour/ Post Office benefits/ 10 paid holidays I
originally signed on for, the crappy Blue Mountain Express is offering
me a measley $10 to $12 an hour delivering freight/ loaded trailers the
better paid line haul drivers left in the yard, and I have to pay $65 a
week or so for health insurance.
I'll probably go to work for WB transport making $23 an hour, but AFTER
I get checked out health wise, might be Crohn's disease, might be
kidney stones, or some other gastric problem (might be colon cancer/
prostate cancer, my Dad just died from prostate cancer, might be
rectal cancer... What ever God's will is, I'll handle it.
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